bi, chicana, 23yo

hufflepuff, infj, gemini, pokemon go player (usa) ♥ ♥ ♥

watching schitt's creek, prodigal son

listening to hozier

(re)reading harry potter series

prev. @solanos

❀ ❁

since sept. 28th, '19 ❀

cph

utara-north:

cultural-hoxhaist:

goodie-badwife:

audible-smiles:

lipatti:

am i the only person not affected by generalized positivity… like post it notes in bathrooms that say ‘you’re beautiful’ or posts that are like ‘smile! you are a beautiful sunshine flower!’ i’m just like … okay…

I just heard a psychologist (Guy Winch) say that the people that positive affirmations help most are actually the people who have high or at least normal self-esteem. They really do cheer those people up!

But for the rest of us they run so counter to our general worldview (we’re fundamentally bad and deserve nothing) that our brain rejects them immediately as lies and uses that moment to remind us of how terrible and abnormal we actually are.

What usually works for people with low self-esteem is stuff like writing out a list of very specific things we know we’re good at, and revisiting it every day to write a paragraph elaborating on one of those things (i.e. “I’m a compassionate person and here are five examples”) to try to set our brain on a different track long term.

That makes so much sense.

the psychology behind the “ok that sounds fake but ok” meme 

“Smile! You are so beautiful!” won’t do you gotta come real to me
Like make a scientific list of my good sides with evidences

excepttheeyes:

Kreacher’s Tale:
“Master Regulus was worried, very worried. Master Regulus told Kreacher to stay hidden and not to leave the house. And then… it was a little while later…Master Regulus came to find Kreacher in his cupboard one night, and Master Regulus was strange, not as he usually was, disturbed in his mind…Kreacher could tell…and he asked Kreacher to take him to the cave, the cave where Kreacher had gone with the Dark Lord.” (…) “And he ordered – Kreacher to leave – without him. And he told Kreacher – to go home – and never to tell my Mistress – what he had done – but to destroy – the first locket. And he drank – all the potion – and Kreacher swapped the lockets – and watched… as Master Regulus… was dragged beneath the water….” (
Tom Sturridge as Regulus Black)